I have had a while to think on the topic of hoods, as I missed it the first time round due to our holiday but luckily jade has reopened all the Kink of the Week topics whilst she is on her vacation so I am getting another pop at the cherry so to speak.
No matter how I turn this one in my mind it just doesn’t sit well with me. I think the issue for me is that a hood feels so very dehumanizing and that is definitely not something that rattle my kink cage at all. I think many years of feeling a bit invisible means that things that dehumanize me or even de-womanise me are actually a big turn off to me. Just like the ‘being used as a piece of furniture’ pushes that button hoods do the same.
I want to be a slut and whore for him, a dirty little bad girl, a filthy bitch, a wanton wench but in all those moments I feel seen and acknowledged. The thought of a hood feels like I am being hidden, being stripped of an identity and it does absolutely nothing for me, in fact, beyond that, it goes so far as to turn me off. Now stick a pillowcase over my head, wrestle me to the floor, tie me up and abuse me might (grins) just work for me but it would have to be within the context of that moment, that scene, otherwise I am fairly sure it would trigger a safeword moment.
I have seen others wearing hoods of all descriptions and some of them have been very beautiful and looked very sexy on them. I can see how they work for others just they don’t work for me. Could that change? I have learned in this life that it is wise to say ‘never say never’ and yet as far as this subject is concerned I am fairly confident that my issues and feelings about it somewhat deep-rooted and so unlikely to change but like so much of my kink journey only time will tell for sure.
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6 comments
To me, sex should be something mutually enjoyable.
If you don’t like hood, you shouldn’t just put one on, just to please him.
I don’t think you have read my post properly. No where do I say that he is into it or that he would expect me to do that. I am writing purely about myself here.
Mollyxxx
Hoods can be hot. There’s a video online of two latina girls in hoodies. Strangely arousing even though they’re barely touching.
Ahhh hoodies are a different thing altogether and I can often be found wearing one of those
Mollyxxx
It’s just as important to know what you don’t like as it is to know what you do like and want. Now Hoodies I’ll agree serve a completely different purpose 🙂
I certainly didn’t find hoods at all appealing until I got to know Hylas. As it is now, I am very comfortable with him wearing them (as long it’s not all the time), and will very occasionally put one on myself 🙂
It’s interesting how things can change, sometimes!
xx Dee