15 March 2011
I seem to have so many things I want to write of late and just not enough hours in the day to get it all done and this little project is a perfect example of that but I am on it now, so here goes. I believe these prompt were the brain child of Rayne over at Insatiable Desire but like many great ideas it has taken off and I have since come across it on many other blogs. In fact I first discovered it at Pieces Of Jade.
This will be my first ongoing project and because of the previous mentioned ‘hours in the day’ situation I will not be attempting to complete it in 30 days but as and when time permits and when my thoughts on the prompts can travel from the scary place that is my brain into words that I can share with you. It will be more of a drip feed than a regular flow I suspect.
As each post goes up I shall turn the corresponding question below into a link so that you can easily find them in amongst all my other rambling and of course, me being me, I shall do my best to provide a little visual stimulation along with my words.
The 30 Days of Kink
Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What Parts of BDSM Interest You? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self.
Day 3: How Did You Discover You Were Kinky? Part 1: A Seat at the Table Part 2: The Main Course Part 3: Just Desserts
Day 4: Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks?
Day 5: What was your first kinky sexual experience? If you haven’t had one yet, talk about what you hope to have happen. Part 1: A Seat at the Table Part 2: The Main Course Part 3: Just Desserts
Day 6: Describe your weirdest/most interesting sexual fantasy.
Day 7: What’s your favourite toy?
Day 8: Post a kinky image you find erotic.
Day 9: Post a kink related song or music video you enjoy.
Day 10: What are your hard limits?
Day 11: What are your views on the ethics of kink?
Day 12: Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had. If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.
Day 13: Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you? Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?
Day 14: How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?
Day 15: Post A BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.
Day 16: What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?
Day 17: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?
Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they?
Day 19: Any Unexpected Ways Kink Has Improved Your Life? If So, What Are They?
Day 20: Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand
Day 21: Favourite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction)
Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?
Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed? How so?
Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?
Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?
Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?
Day 27: Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?
Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play? What significance does your attire have to you?
Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title(eg mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, Sir)? What is your opinion of these titles in general?
Day 30: Whatever BDSM/kink related thing you want to write about.
Hey, thanks! I’m adding you to the page now. I know it’s been forever. Sorry! Things have been insane.
I love this idea! Is it okay if I ‘steal’ it for my blog??
Absolutely…. it is not my idea, you can find the link to the original creator in the post. I look forward to reading your contributions.
Here;’s my 2 cents on “Day 3: How did you discover you were kinky?”
The great thing about a kink is that they are ever changing I wholesomely agree with you that in 1 year the list will be different. I believe that exposing yourself to new things is really the only way to discover a new kink.
Once before I was on a date with a guy, our 4th or 5th date and we were going to the park with a nice pond. He pushed me playfully inside a big bush to the middle that seems to be lacking sun since it was all dried up and hollow in the center, then he stuck his hands up my shirt and started fondling and kissing me.
It was totally unexpected and I instantly got wet, the fact he completely threw me off guard was such a huge turn on the future erotic encounters weren’t so great if they were planned. I needed spontaneity and to be caught by surprise.
The turn-on was so great that a planned sexual encounter didn’t do it for me anymore but that lead us to doing some crazy things outdoors that I would never done before.
We would have a quickie in the hallway as I was putting away my laundry, really out of the blue things like that. Boy I tell you that was the greatest relationship ever!
Love this 30 day list but picked Day 3 to do first. My blog might cover a few more days because things are just messy that way.