Sutble Messages

by Molly Moore

4th November 2011

Is it a woman thing, or just human nature in general to not be able to see what others see about you, both physically and also the person who you are? I think everyone has those moments of self-doubt, whether it be about their physical appearance or about their personality or their skills, the real problems are caused when we let those self doubts and negative views of ourself cripple us to such an extent that we are unable to achieve anything. I know in the past I have been very guilty of this, although I am not sure guilt is the right word, maybe more a victim of believing the subtle messages from people over the years that I was not capable of achieving anything other than cleaning the house and raising the kids, messages that I have now learnt to ignore. I don’t think that anymore, and haven’t for a long time now but that doesn’t mean that I don’t still have days when the feelings of self-doubt about my writing doesn’t eat at me to the extent that I just can’t get one word onto the screen.

Recently it has been a battle with time that has weighed me down and stopped me producing the work I so desperately want to do. When Sir and I were living apart our social life and time together was all online and so having time to write and do other things online too was much easier. Don’t get me wrong I would not go back to those days for ANYTHING, having him here with me is the best things that ever happened but like all of life it has set me a new series of challenges just unlike the ones that went with being apart these are challenges that can truly be faced together, side by side. They are not challenges that leave me lonely and sad and stretched to breaking point they are challenges that are helping to build us, and constantly drawing us together as a unit.

So why the picture? Does my bum look big in this? Well actually I think my bum looks pretty damn hot in this picture. Wow, I can’t believe I just wrote that. Just like self-doubt about my abilities and skills I often have a negative view about my body. It is far from perfect, I have had 2 children and if you look closely enough they have left their mark on me. Sir hates it when I am negative about my body but I think it is important to be self-aware enough of your assets so you can dress them well. Being blind to the bits that are not perfectΒ  is only going to lead you down the road to clothing choices from hell. Being aware of the bits that need covering up does not mean you hate your body just that you know that a certain style of dress, or cut of top does absolutely NOTHING for you. Picking clothes that flatter your assets and hide your debts is in my opinion vital to good dressing and knowing what works for you is a skill all in itself and one that I feel very confident about. So back to my bum. It is one of my best bits. It is firm but also fleshy, it has a nice shape and I know I am blessed with some great genetic bottom history because there is not an inch of cellulite anywhere. I like my bottom, there, I said it, a loud and proud positive bottom declaration.


Ps… Day 5 of the ‘post a picture everyday for a week task’ and I am soooooo on the ball with this!


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Illithyia November 4, 2011 - 11:48 am

wow, you’re such an inspiration!! I think women should take more photos of their ‘hated’ body parts and realise that they’re blowing things way out of proportion!! I love you molly!!!

Clive November 4, 2011 - 11:57 am

Well I can not argue with that loud and proud bottom declaration Molly – that is one hell of a fine arse πŸ™‚

KaziGrrl November 4, 2011 - 12:35 pm

I’m sure that there are men with the same sort of insecurities… you just don’t hear as much from them for cultural reasons. I know a couple years ago you couldn’t get me in front of a camera except for theatre production shots, and now look at me! πŸ˜€

Go you for being loud and proud, and I echo Clive’s sentiments… a fine arse indeed!

~Kazi xxx

Ram Sunlover November 4, 2011 - 2:43 pm

Molly – raw and honest. More than I can yet bring myself to write out for the universe. Kudos and….I’m sure Sir properly, frequently, and copiously appreciates that ass.

Venus Luvs November 4, 2011 - 3:39 pm

I love your direct honesty every time I read something you have written. I have a terrible time taking pics of myself and I’m amazed at your braveness. Thanks for this post…..

Elizabeth N. Spire November 4, 2011 - 4:28 pm

You have a fantastic bum, in person and in picture… What I wouldn’t give for one that nice!

Ben November 4, 2011 - 5:06 pm

Definitely a hot bum. Would I like to take you from that angle. Hardening between my legs. And I like the photo title: “offering”

Sally November 4, 2011 - 5:29 pm

lol you -do- have a great bum πŸ™‚ And you are absolutely beautiful πŸ™‚ thank you for being such an honest writer, self image is definitely one of my biggest challenges πŸ™ But I love the way you approach the topic and issue! You’re such an inspiration and incredibly strong πŸ™‚

mollyskiss November 4, 2011 - 6:22 pm

Thank you very much for such a wonderful comment. Negative self-image is a big battle for many people, I only tried to put some words to mine. I am glad you felt inspired by what I have written. As a writer that comment is like gold dust to me. Thank you again.

William November 4, 2011 - 7:32 pm

Great ass!!!
Of course it would look better with red hand prints all over it…Grins!!!
Thank you for sharing much a fantastic photo.


rach November 6, 2011 - 8:46 pm

I think my issue is comparing myself to others. When I do so, I see myself as inferior. In looks, in ability. When I feed myself with confidence and simply appreciate others abilities as different than my own, I feel better. Perfect bodies are boring, the ones with marks and blemishes have so many stories to tell. Although your bum…quite perfect. x

Mrs Discontented November 6, 2011 - 8:12 pm

You do have a fine ass!…and this is a great post I agree, it’s inspiring.

joannesummersj August 19, 2012 - 3:48 pm



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