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How to Use a Dildo for Maximum Pleasure – Guest Post

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Pleasure is all about knowing yourself. Having a good idea about what to touch, how much pressure to apply, how hard to rub, what rhythm to follow… if you don’t have such knowledge, sexual experiences would be mediocre at best.

These rules are especially applicable to toy use.

Having a good dildo isn’t enough to have the most earth-shattering orgasms. Knowing how to use it will be much more important.

And if you’ve never been intimate with a dildo in the past or you don’t know how to get started, the following guide will reveal some important essentials.

Make Sure You’re Properly Aroused

The number one rule of great sex is being properly turned on. In other words, make sure you’re wet and ready before you stick anything inside yourself.

There are so many ways to get yourself turned on before moving to the next level. Touching your erogenous zones, humping a pillow, using vibrating toys, watching some porn – the options are limitless.

Understand the thing that sex toys are not human flesh, no matter how close they come to the genuine experience. Usually, they’ll be harder and much more textured than an actual penis. If you’re not properly aroused, chances are that the insertion of a toy will feel unpleasant or even painful.

With that being said, you can incorporate a dildo in your foreplay routine.

Running it up and down your body, pressing it against your clit or turning on the vibration settings (if your dildo has such) can be very beneficial for external stimulation. A glass dildo is another excellent foreplay choice because it allows for temperature experimentations. Adding heat or coolness to the mix will definitely bring on a whole new dimension to your foreplay.

Lube Up!

Rule number two of using a dildo or another sex toy for penetration – lube is your friend. The more you have of it, the better the experience.

Self-lubrication is obviously great.

When you’re aroused, you probably feel wet enough to handle even the biggest dildo on the planet. Still, adding a bit of lube to the mix will give you a better sensation.

This rule holds true for both vaginal and anal sex. Again – sex toys aren’t human flesh. They’re not self-lubricating. Even if you don’t have issues with wetness, a prolonged session could eventually make you feel dry and irritable.

There are many kinds of lube on the market, some of them meant to enhance the experience even further (by giving you an exciting tingling, hot or cold sensation). You can couple such products with some of the best squirting dildos out there. These add a realistic element to the experience and could help you live out a fantasy.

Start Slow

Now that you feel ready, it’s time to take the heat up a notch.

If you’ve used penetrative sex toys before, you probably know the rhythms and intensities that are most enjoyable. Anyone who’s testing such naughty accessories for the first time, however, should probably start out slow and take it from there.

Be gentle when you insert the dildo the first time around. See how it feel. Are you comfortable with the texture, the density and the girth of the item? Do they feel good? If the answer is yes, you can move on to experimenting with other techniques and types of thrusting.

The most basic technique is thrusting along the entire length of your vagina (deep thrusts). Some women also like a bit of twisting or a circular motion. These add a new dimension to the thrust, giving you a better experience of the toy’s texture.

Slight angling coupled with more shallow thrusts will be ideal for G-spot stimulation.

Don’t be afraid of switching things up. Once you master a certain thrusting technique, try something new. It may not be optimal for you but still, you’ll discover facets of your pleasure and your sexuality that you were previously unaware of.

Go Hands-Free

Most dildos on the market today have a suction cup base, which is a wonderful design perk.

A suction cup dildo can be stuck to a smooth wall or to the floor. When the toy is attached to a surface this way, you can experiment with a ton of additional positions and penetration angles. Using the suction cup also means you wouldn’t have to hold the dildo in your hands. This way, you’ll get to stimulate your breasts or clit while enjoying the thrusting action.

Don’t hesitate about testing out the suction cup. If a toy is well-made, it will handle some passionate thrusting without coming undone.

For many beginners, sticking the dildo to a wall would make things easier. When the toy is stuck to the floor, you’ll need to do some squatting. This can get tiring, especially if you don’t have a lot of core and thigh strength.

The Next Step – Anal Fun

Smaller, more streamlined dildos are the perfect first toy for a bit of anal fun.

If you’ve always been curious about anal play but you didn’t have the courage to test it out with a partner, a toy would be the perfect choice for some first steps.

Anal sex can be extremely pleasurable. The rectal region is filled with nerve endings that are easy to stimulate through penetration. Again, you need to be properly aroused and relaxed before trying to stick anything up your butt. Otherwise, your sphincter will contract and the penetration will be difficult.

Start out with a bit of regular masturbation. Do the things you like until you get wet. Next, insert a finger up your butt to determine if you like the sensation. This kind of penetration will also help you loosen up.

When you feel ready, lube up a dildo well and insert it really gently. If you’re aroused by the experience, you can continue your experimentation with anal play.

There’s a reason why the humble dildo is one of the most beloved sex toys. Incredibly versatile, it can be used in so many ways. A single vibrating dildo is a great choice for achieving powerful orgasms. Two toys will give you that double penetration experience with no risks (and while you’re fully in control).

Don’t be afraid of bringing your fantasies to reality with the use of a dildo. No matter what you like, chances are that you’ll discover at least a few amazing techniques that will truly rock your boat.

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  • Molly Moore - Author, Blogger, Photographer, Speaker, Director of Operations @Eroticon Find me in my corner of the internet at Molly's Daily Kiss and on Twitter @mollysdailykiss

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