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Just say no, BDSM hard limits urethral sounding

I want to preface this post with a big bold your kink is not my kink but your kink is OK, statement. I am writing this piece about my thoughts on this subject and in no way am I denouncing anyone else’s kink. If this kink is for you, then more power to you. I am truly happy for you that you have found your ‘thing’.

That opening statement will probably give you a big clue as to how I feel about urethral sounding but just in case you are in any doubt I will elaborate.

What is Urethral sounding?

Sounding is simple on its face; you’re inserting a rod in the urethra and feeding it forward for some distance.  The sensations this drives, along with other aspects, can be… intense.  The sounds, those metal rods that you use as the toys in this kink are specially made, are sterilizable and come in different sizes

I love cock. I love touching, smelling, sucking, fucking, I am very cockcentric in my sexuality. As I wrote in my post, Never hurt the cockie, my love of penis does not extend to hurting or torturing them in any way, shape or form. Even if the owner of the penis desired such a thing I would most definitely not be the person to give it to them. This applies even more so to urethral sounding. I would be utterly terrified to even try to do it for fear of hurting or damaging the person.

If Michael ever decided he wanted to explore this kink he would have to find someone else to do it with it because even for him, and I do love him very much, there is no way on this planet I could help him with it. Just reading about it makes the back of my legs go tight and my stomach twist in ways that are not pleasant. I find looking at images of this kink hugely challenging. If they are for Sinful Sunday or if people post them for this Kink of the Week I always do my best to appreciate them as images of someone else’s kink, being respectful regardless of whether I find them hot just as I would hope people would do for my images.

Of course it does not have to be just for men, so what about if someone wanted to do it to me? Again, this falls into the absolutely no fucking way. If you even tried to come close to me with sounding rods I would likely rear up and tear your face off. Just all the no there ever was. This kink does not inspire a single sexy or erotic thought in me. There is something invasive about it that if I think about someone doing it to makes my thighs clamp tightly shut.

I can appreciate for others that this kink involves a huge amount of trust and skill to get right and so I can see its appeal in that regard but the actual act itself is lost on me and so I am looking forward to reading other people’s posts on this subject so that I can gain insight to what it is that works for them.

I tend to say about most things that life has taught me to be cautious with the phrases ‘I will never do that’ because on many occasions, particularly when it comes to kink, never has turned into possibly, maybe, curious, and so on but on this subject I actually feel pretty confident in saying that Urethral Sounding is on my hard limits list and that is never going to change.

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  • Show Comments (7)

  • Ani

    Limits change all the time. A year ago I thought needles were sick; now I wouldn’t say no to experimenting with a needle scene.

    • Molly Moore

      I completely agree with you. Many of my limits have changed but this is one I just can’t see shifting


  • Marie Rebelle

    I totally agree with you in all of this. Definitely something that’s on my list of hard limits too.

    Rebel xox

  • Modesty Ablaze

    Yes . . . something i’m squeamish about as well !!!
    I prefer seeing them standing erect and then spurting things out . . . rather than having things pushed in !!!
    Xxx – K

    • Molly Moore

      Haha, that made me laugh and yes I am completely with you


  • sub-Bee

    I’m very much with you on never hurting the cockie, even if he wanted to, no way!!

    However my reaction to the reverse surprised me. When I first saw the topic I cringed but I appear more open to it that I thought but not to the point I will be chasing after the experience.

    • Molly Moore

      I am interested to learn why it works for folks but I can’t ever see me wanting to try it


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