It is not only Masturbation Month but because it is, for that very reason it’s also the topic on Kink of the Week. Yes, I really was that organised for once. So, what better excuse can there possibly be to write a post about touching myself.
The start of a beautiful relationship
I didn’t have my first orgasm until I was in my twenties. This was most definitely caused by lack of anatomical knowledge. Prior to that I definitely masturbated, it felt nice to touch myself but it was my first vibrator that would finally unlock the secret of my orgasms for me. That secret being that my orgasms come from my clit. It was a wonderful revelation and the beginning of a lifelong relationship with my clitoris and masturbation. At first I wondered if it was a fluke and once alone (my first orgasm had been with my then partner) I set about seeing if I could recreate this fabulousness on my own. The answer was, oh yes I could, and as often as I wanted to as well. I become a regular dedicated wanker!
Vibrators or fingers?
After my initial discovery it was definitely a combination of the two but eventually I realised that I could no longer orgasm without a vibrator. I don’t know when that happened, it was a gradual change over time but suddenly I realised that my clit was a vibrator only zone and that was not a good thing. After all you can’t have a wank in the car while you are waiting for your kids if you can only do it with a vibrator and so I banished my collection to the drawer and set about re-teaching my body the joys of non vibrator orgasms. It took me about 3 weeks to regain the sensation and since then I have never looked back, or should that be buzzed back. I do have a couple of vibrators I love but I only use them now and then or, in the case of The Doxy, is used by him when he wants to torture orgasms out of me.
It’s all about the nail
So let’s talk about technique, because I am sure you have come here for a technical guide to my masturbatory repertoire. Sometimes sitting but nearly always lying on my back or at least reclined is my preference. I find it really hard to cum if I am on my front or standing which will probably help explain why I am a missionary position girl (although it also speaks to my kink of being ‘beneath’). I also like penetration. I can come without it mind you as my orgasm is triggered by my clit but having something inside me really helps things along to a very satisfactory conclusion. I have a large selection of glass dildos, for this very purpose, from which to pick from. However the real key to all these shennanigans is the nail on my middle finger (right hand) because I use that, not directly on my clit but on the hood of my clit. As he has just said to me “I have never seen you do it any other way” and he should know because he has been watching and studying me for a long time now which leads me nicely onto my next point
I like it when you watch me
Yes you! Well OK, maybe not just anyone but for me being watched while I masturbate is a huge fucking turn on to me. It is a kink I discovered when we were long distance because an ocean in the way really makes actual sex a bit tricky. The first time he asked me to cum for him I was a bit unsure and he didn’t get the most graphic view of what I was doing but it was so hot to me that the next time he asked I positioned my laptop to give him the best seat in the house (on the internet?). The thing about Skype is that you can see them in the big window but you can also see yourself in the little small window and as a result I also discovered that not only was watching the glass dildo slide in out of me fucking hot but that when I came you could quite clearly see my cunt spasming. I mean all those years I could obviously feel it but watching it, seeing it like that, so clearly was a huge revelation to me. If you have never done it then my advice is to give it a try, as not only was it fascinating to me, it was also incredibly sexy and made me realise just why watching someone cum, actually being to see the moment, would be such a turn on.
We are clearly not in a long distance relationship but that does not mean we have given up on this game. He loves to watch me masturbating. He even wrote about it here, When I think about you, and sometimes he will even set the camera up for me so that I can watch myself too and on one special occasion he even got me to masturbate for a friend on Skype as a birthday present to the watcher. It has long been on my to-do list to make an actual video of my masturbating however despite my love of being watched it also feels oddly personal and I think sharing it would involve a big deep breath but I am fairly sure it will happen one day.
Can I cum?
Before I met Michael and even during out long distance relationship I was a regular, at least once a day, wanker. In fact for many years it was how I started and ended nearly every day and very lovely it was too. Nowadays just having a wank is a less common thing for me, not for any other reasons than I now find myself in a very sexually active relationship and so the need or desire for one is much reduced and as part of our D/s relationship orgasms must be requested. That does not mean I don’t ask, I do, and it is something I have been working on getting better at after a recent on the subject in which he encouraged me to ask more often. I do love a hot bath and wank, I also love masturbating during my period as it really helps get rid of the cramps and general tension that the time of the month brings with it. The thing is now that often when I ask it will also come with an additional suggestion…. Do you want to watch me cum?