I love going out to play. We have been to quite a few dungeon’s and clubs now and found that some of them just don’t have ‘it’ whilst others do. Size is important (excuse the pun) when it comes to a good BDSM/dungeon club. The type of impact and bondage play that many people want to do means you need space. There is no point in positioning your St Andrews cross in an alcove, like one place we went too. It might like cool but it makes it impossible to swing your arm let alone an arm wielding a flogger or cane. Putting your winch right next to the bar, or your spanking bench in a corridor (both things we have come across) are also really bad ideas and then there the horror that is music.
I really like music and have a fairly eclectic taste but how on earth can you, the club owner, choose just the right track that I want pounding through my skull as Sir’s flogger is pounding on my arse? I hate the clubs that have the music so loud that you have to shout in each others ear. Not only can you not socialize in a place like that you also cannot communicate with the person who is beating your arse and anyone who knows anything about BDSM play, particularly impact play, knows that communication, both verbal and visual is so important. If the music is so loud you can feel it thumping through your body then in my opinion you should step away from the flogger and dance instead as that is all the space is really suitable for.
Then there is lighting. A bit like music, lighting is harder to get right than you think. Flashing dance club lights are all very pretty but in a play space are totally impractical. Some dark and dingy corners are nice for a snuggle or maybe more but around play equipment you need lighting to be good enough for the Dom to be able to see his target well and gauge his or her physical reactions.
On top of this there is temperature; warm enough to make stripping off comfortable but not so hot that when the action starts everyone feels like they are going to pass out, equipment; needs to be well made, well put together, well positioned and above all clean, and with cleaning supplies so you can tidy up afterwards and possibly most important of all somewhere to sit down. Trust me when I say that after a damn good spanking on a St Andrews Cross of some other equally exciting piece of equipment you really are not in a fit state to be standing up and so providing a few crappy chairs in the corner of the room is never ever going to work well.
Of course even if you get all this right it can still be a bit hit and miss when it comes to atmosphere but I have found that in general where clubs have good well thought out facilities and are run by people who actually care about providing a quality play space rather than just lining their pocket then a good crowd of people is nearly always guaranteed.
For most folk having facilities like this at home are just not practical and so finding a good club to go and play in allows people to explore those scenarios and play environments that they can’t in at home and also act as a place to go and socialize with like-minded kinky perves. In my experience a well run club is not a place of danger and fear but is in fact a place of much fun, warmth, friendship and personal liberation. No one is going to be bothered by you wearing a collar or wearing nothing at all, or walking around with a whip in your hand or in my case having blood running down the back of your legs.
It is a place where you can explore those boundaries amongst people who even of they don’t understand your kink will not be offended by it. Of course this is an ideal and one that many clubs don’t deliver on but when you discover one that does, if you are anything like us, you will find yourself returning to it time and again with a spring in your step a ladder in your stockings and bag full of evil hitty spanky things!
I should just add that all of these clubs have a very strict no photography policy. The only reason we managed to get this one is because we hired the club for my birthday party and this image is the result of a truly wonderful birthday beating that left me blissed out on the endorphins and admiring the wonderful marks he had left on my body for days afterwards.
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