A sexual experience does not have to involve a partner for it to be a valid and enjoyable, pleasure seeking with yourself totally counts.
I miss a lot of things at the moment. I wrote about some of them this week, pain and marks and the intimacy of being with a partner and it goes without saying think that I miss sex and other kink things a lot too. It is what it is, for now and that is one thing I am really trying to hold on to. It is not forever it is just for now and whilst it is I am doing my best to find joy and pleasure in exploring my body on my own. Not that I don’t or didn’t masturbate when I had a partner with me but that now it is my main sexual outlet I am making a conscious effort to spend a bit more time and thought on it.
Clearly some days all you have time for is something quick but just like it is important to make time for sex with your partner I think it is important to make time for sex with yourself. I have been reengaging with filthy fantasies that I had hidden away in the past for various reasons and even been experimenting with some self administered pain, more on that another time. I have also contemplated trying some self rope bondage but I am slightly wary of that because all my rope experience so far (which is very limited) has resulted in me being fairly blissed out and I am not sure that is good if you are on your own.
I say on my own, which physically it is, but sharing your wanks with a partner is still a wonderful thing. Talking about what we would like to do with one another, sharing fantasies and also memories is a joyful thing.
Once I discovered my orgasms back in my early 20’s I set about perfecting how to make them happen and that has been a life long exploration that continues to this day and whilst sharing by body with a partner is the ultimate for me having this time to regroup and explore by myself again is something I am trying to make the most of and see as a valid and pleasurable time for me to connect with body.
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I love how you can find fulfillment in every circumstance!
Love the colours in this image, hope you find much pleasure on your journey forward.
I love how visible all the goosebumps on your legs are – it makes me want to run my sharp nails on them x
Great image – seeing the gold dildo through the glass one – cool x
Those are some pretty toys to be wanking with. I’m sure you have plenty in your arsenal.
Oh I LOVE the detail in your image (and in your words!) . . . but the colours and shapes and textures of you and your dildos is simply gorgeous!!!
Xxx – K
I am trying to reconnect with my body too. It’s so important to at least still have the self love, right? Love the image.
Rebel xox
Masturbation is definitely a valid form of sex, I so very much agree. I hope that you will be able to experience the physical touch you long for, soon again. Until then, it sounds like there are a lot of things to play with and discover masturbation wise as well.
This is really interesting and has come at a good time for me as part of my priority for this year is to reconnect with myself through masturbation. I appreciate what you are saying about having a partner to explore with and I feel lucky that we have the sort of sexy and play that we do, but somewhere along the line I have lost the intimacy with my own body, which is something that I want to change if I can. I love your image too, the softness around you is very sensual and your little goosebumps are very sexy.
I think taking the time out to really connect to your body is important, partner or no. We know what we like better than anyone else to be fair.
I love the colors in this. Your skin looks soft and I love the pinks/reds in the background
Connecting and re-connecting with yourself is so important. As for self ties, I find I’m more distracted so I don’t bliss out quite as much but it maybe worth just starting with a few simple ones just so you know how you react.
I’m living of sex on my own for a while now. I have to say it’s more fun when it’s by choice and not by necessity, so I totally get that it’s not a replacement. But it’s a step that leads to another and another… xoxo