When I was at school (I was about 14 or 15) Dionne spat in my hair. She was the ring leader of the girls who bullied me and I hated them and was terrified of them in equal measures. I will never forget the sound as she cleared her throat and my disgust at knowing that was in my hair. I ran to the toilets and did my best to wipe it off but for the rest of the day I felt like it was crawling through my hair. When the bell finally went I rushed straight home, ran a bath and washed her foulness out of my hair. Even writing this down now 30 years later it makes me feel angry but also disgusted.
There is absolutely nothing sexy about spitting as far as I am concerned. I suspect my revulsion for it is closely linked to that experience although I have always felt it was a fairly disgusting thing. If I ever see someone spitting in the street, it is always men by the way, it makes my stomach turn. I understand if a fly goes in your mouth or something but it is never like that, it is almost like they are marking their territory or something. It is such a vile habit and it would be a massive deal breaker for me if a man I was with did such a thing.
That does not mean I am anti saliva. I have definitely been known to lick my fingers before sliding them inside myself and watching him suck or lick his fingers before pushing them into me is fucking hot but if he actually spat on my cunt I think I would probably recoil in horror. I also love sucking his cock and getting it all hard and wet and when he fucks my mouth and it make me drool that is sexy. So it is not saliva that I have a problem with, after all I love kissing and when he goes down on me, and even when he licks a finger and uses it to wipe a smudge of my face, it is not the saliva that I dislike but the act of spitting that grosses me out.
I have found spitting to be something that often features in quite a lot of porn especially BDSM type stuff which is really jarring to me. The moment he spits on her I am done. I just can’t watch it. The same in Tumblr, the amount of times I have found a gif or porn that at first glance looks damn sexy and then bang, he spits in her mouth, or on her face or arse and I find myself grimacing and instantly switching it off.
I can completely understand how spitting can be a kink for some folks though. It you are into humiliation play then eroticising being spat on or spitting on someone would make perfect sense to me. There is something degrading about it and so if that taps into the scope of your humiliation kink I am pretty sure for those people it would be as hot as hell. However I do wonder just how prevalent that is because the rate at which I see it in porn would suggest it was fairly popular/common and yet I am not sure that it is, but I have nothing to really base that on so I shall be very interested to read the other Kink of the Week posts about this topic or read any comments on this post about it so if this is a kink for you, or you think it might be please do tell me more about it as I would be fascinated to hear it. Just because it is not my kink does not mean that I don’t find it interesting to learn how it works for other people and supporting people in their kink choices, even when they are not my kinks, is for me a really key part of being a sex positive person.