18th May 2012
The recent one year anniversary celebration of the Pussy Pride Project has, I am delighted to say, renewed interest in this project and I have had a fair few enquiries from a variety of different people offering to write guest posts. As a result I have decided to set aside Fridays for this. If YOU would like to contribute to this project, either by writing something on your own blog or submitting a guest post then click on the Pussy Pride badge below to find out more.
This Friday I am delighted to welcome the wonderful Kerry Stott to Molly’s Daily Kiss. I meet Kerry on Twitter earlier this year, if I remember rightly our first conversation was about the London Eye. Before long she was inviting me to appear on her radio show and as is often the case with Twitter an acquaintance soon turned into a friendship and as they say the rest is history. Kerry is the author of Double Decker Bus; “a compelling account of Kerry’s adventures with cancer” she is a funny, sassy, talented and intelligent lady and I am delighted to welcome her here to my blog and host her Pussy Pride…
Confidence
For the last few months all I have been doing is talking and researching about sex. No I am not some form of sex deprived loony. I was interviewing Molly and her husband for my radio show and not wanting to sound like a complete pillock on air or to do any form of low-budget, cheap reporting I felt that I needed to research my topic. Ok, I hold my hands up in the air, I found the researching interesting and stimulating and, most of the time, quite a lot of fun.
I talked to lots and lots of people, men and women, people who are into kink, people who are not. The women that I talked to had shared experiences of having some young idiot in their lives who had said something derogatory about their vagina; either the shape, smell, texture or flavour. The psychological scars of this are obvious. These women would tell me that they would feel ashamed, worried and anxious about their partner’s having oral sex or touching their pussies. To listen to, I found this heart breaking that all of the women, bar none, all had this experience; and yes I do include myself in there too. I think this kind of sucks when I see the look of pride on my husbands’ face when I achieve climax.
However, when I was talking to the men during my research I was delighted to find that they absolutely loved their ladies vaginas. They loved licking and slurping and kissing and sucking and looking at them, studying them, loving them, inhaling their scent. What a difference time makes. Where had these dick heads gone that were so down about our pussies? So inexperienced in giving us pleasure? Had they actually matured?
I went away and had a bit of a think about it. I am in my 30’s and I don’t suffer fools gladly. There is every possibility with projects like the Pussy Pride Project that by talking about vaginas that they stop being this mysterious odd shaped thing that we have. Let’s face it, it is tucked away where we can’t easily see it. It is easily hidden and covered. The same cannot be said for penises, they are out there, always at hands so to speak. Being more confident in general about my body certainly does not invite idiotic statements from losers who think that it’s ok to put women and their lady bits down. In general I have found the men that I talked to, to be more interested in pleasing their partners, more curious in what makes them tick. They talked with pride when they were able to bring their partners to a climax, with confusion when it doesn’t happen but seeing it more as a challenge for the next time rather than a failure. They talked about how they liked to play with, fool around with, engage in games with, be creative with their partner’s vagina much to each other’s mutual delight. It is this relaxed creativity that makes me smile and proud to be associated with men who see their woman’s vagina as something beautiful.
So what about the women? I suspect more could be done to get them to embrace their vaginas. With age comes a sense of confidence. I would hope that younger women reading this, who are not so proud of their pussies, not so comfortable with them; that by exploring yourself and surrounding yourselves with men and women who treasure what we have as women, fun and confidence will come. I discovered through researching the show and talking openly with so many other women (and their partners) that by having a partner who loves our pussies, we in turn, become more curious, more accepting and more loving of our vaginas. From that, a good, strong healthy relationship happens between us and our cunts, we learn to respect them, tease them, play with them, enjoy them, say ‘No’ when we don’t want something. These idiotic boys melt away when you embrace the fact that we have something special and beautiful, right there in between our legs.
Kerry Stott
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