“The only shame in masturbation is the shame of not doing it well.” – Sigmund Freud
I was in my mid twenties when I had my first orgasm. It was not the first time I masturbated but it was the very first time I had ever used a sex toy. A vibrator that I bought from one of the ads in the back of a dirty magazine. Yes I am that old. It was that toy which unloked the mystery of my orgasm and I say mystery because I really had no idea how to make myself come prior to that.
The internet didn’t exist back then and the books my Mum had given me as a young person had been very biologically factual and whilst the clitoris was mentioned and shown on the diagram at no point in the book did it explicitly state that stimulation of the clit was the key to my orgasms. I genuienly had absolutely no idea and before you wonder I assume that none of the partners I had been with up to that point knew either, or if they did cared to do nothing about it.
That gold vibrator changed everything. I was playing around with it. Rubbing it up and down my labia because it felt nice and well one thing, or should I say place led to another and before I knew it I was having my first orgasm. Not only did it feel fantastic but it was the most amazing moment for me as suddenly I understood. The vital bit of missing information had been unlocked and with it came my orgasms.
I set about wanking at a furious pace. Enjoying my new found super power morning and night and happily sharing it with my then partner too. For all his faults he was very enthusiastic about vibrators and dildos. It was him who had suggested buying it in the first place and I am damn glad he did.
That was over 20 years ago. I have had 2 children in that time, 2 husbands and a variety of lovers but me and my clit have stayed the best of friends through it all. Next year I will be 50. I have some early signs of the menopause and some niggling worries about how that might effect my sex drive but so far it has had no impact. In fact that is not completely true, of anything I am as horny as I ever was, maybe even more so and I am also wetter than I have been at previous times in my life. I am not complaining obviously.
My body has changed a huge amount over the years from that very first orgasm to the one I had last night but my clit has remained central to that process. The sex toys have come and gone too. Although I do still have that first toy. It no longer works but I keep it because it was special, because it changed everything and taught me how to make myself come and I have doing so very succesfully ever since.
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