Comments on: Writing authentic

By: Brigit Delaney

Brigit Delaney — Sat, 14 Sep 2019 04:26:48 +0000

I think it is important for you to write about your experiences…in a way that is mindful of your loved ones…not only for yourself but for them. Sometimes writing out your feelings about an experience is a way for your loved ones to learn and process and grow and possibly accept. I am in Michael’s shoes, and knowing more about my husband’s motives and needs and desires is helpful in my journey to accept them.

I look forward to hearing more of your story.

By: Jupiter Grant

Jupiter Grant — Tue, 27 Aug 2019 07:37:29 +0000

Thank you for sharing this. It’s truly authentic, and heartbreaking. It must be such a tightrope to walk, trying to balance between your concerns about Michael’s feelings and privacy, and your own desire to express your journey. I wish you both healing, and hope that you can work through it together. ?

By: Julie

Julie — Sun, 25 Aug 2019 11:34:36 +0000

I really feel the pain in your words, but also hope that you can move on from where you are now. Life is so much harder to live than we really want and need it to be, but I guess that is how it is. Even if you can’t write freely, writing something is important. Then perhaps going back and picking some sense from the words. Thinking of you xx

By: Molly Moore

Molly Moore — Sat, 24 Aug 2019 13:55:53 +0000

In reply to Jade. Oh I have felt that echo many times and always felt a strong connection to you. Yes email would be good but also one day, eventually, in person again Mollyx

By: Jade

Jade — Sat, 24 Aug 2019 12:36:57 +0000

Dearest Molly,
I have returned to this post over and over, reading your words, hearing your heartache as you struggle to find the line between your needs and consideration for him. I know how difficult both what you are doing and choosing what and how to write about it are. I have been and am in a similar space, at least in reference to writing. There are times, dear, when I feel as though we are echoes of each other, across the ocean. It’s so hard when you have used a tool to make sense of your life for so long, to suddenly not be able to, for whatever reason. My heart goes out to you, and I hope you are able to find the balance you need and the happiness you deserve. You have my email, please feel free to reach out if you ever want to talk. Or hell, we could even Skype. 😉 xoxo Jade

By: Violet

Violet — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 23:29:23 +0000

I relate to all sides of your, Michael’s and Cara’s situations (in my limited understanding of your life); I have been in more or less all three spots in the past and none were simple.

I’m very glad to hear, and in full support of, you seeking what you want and need as an individual. As much as we belong with and to our partners, our ultimate responsibility is to ourselves and ourselves alone. What you are doing takes immense courage and to do it with empathy and aplomb speaks to the depth of your character and the likelihood of your ability to have a balanced and harmonious poly life, provided you have the support and acceptance you’re hoping for.

Authenticity is a circuitous path, and rarely a destination. Thank you for sharing the snippets that you do, I’m sure the community agrees that we are all here to support you as best we can, should you need us.

By: missy

missy — Thu, 22 Aug 2019 22:53:36 +0000

I think that being authentic is about being true to yourself. The fact that you choose not to share everything here on your blog at this time doesn’t change that. You are not pretending to be something you are not or hiding something that you are, you are simply protecting someone you care about. Having said that, I can understand completely the need and desire to use this forum to express yourself and process what you are feeling at the moment as doing that has become such a big part of your life and of who you are. I hope that you are both able to resolve this and move forward together in a direction that works for you both. I always think that true love is strong enough to win over the lesser feelings like hurt and anger that can lurk around, and that whichever you feed should be the greater. Hugs

By: eye

eye — Thu, 22 Aug 2019 21:36:21 +0000

I always feel that love in action is the work of the relationship. Sometimes that work is difficult or challenging but it is still love in action. Sending very best wishes and lots of love x

By: Molly Moore

Molly Moore — Thu, 22 Aug 2019 21:27:39 +0000

In reply to Cara Thereon. Thank you. I want us all to be happy too

By: Molly Moore

Molly Moore — Thu, 22 Aug 2019 21:27:02 +0000

In reply to PurpleSole. "You only have one life," Absolutely YES to this