Is there ANYTHING you would like to ask me? Use the comment box below to satisfy your curiosity and you never know, ask me something that makes me want to write and you might just find your question being turned into a fully fledge blog post.
*I give off a super creepy vibe sometime’s usually when i see a female that I’m attracted to… I think it’s stress vibe’s… Have you ever had them befor or do they creep you out too…
I guess you could be right…LOL. without His dominance and guidance I would be out of control.
The distance can be a challange to both of us, but more in the respect of our physical time together and also time to do things out and about that we want to do. As far as Him managing our D/s relationship I don’t think it makes it that much harder as I am His willing sub and therefore I respond to what he asks and wants of me. Without my consent and commitment to our D/s relationship that would not be possible but then I think that is true for all LDR’s whether D/s or not. Both parties have to be committed to making it work.
I know there have been occassions when I have pushed Him harder than I probably would have if he was in the room with me, but those are willful and foolish moments of mine that I have always end up paying dearly for.
I admit though, that I am greatly looking forward to distance no longer being an issue for us.
hi Molly
I loved the nipple jewelry Signs gave you for Valentine’s Day. I loved it so much I ordered some for myself! I am having a hard time getting them on and was wondering if there was a trick to it. I appreciate any help you could give me. Thank you and thank you for the wonderful blog. I love reading the Signs and Molly fairytale. I just know your happily ever after is coming!
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Thank you for the comment and lovely to hear from you.
I found them very easy to get on and they stay on well as long as I pull my nipples firmly through. I know the instructions said to NOT squeeze them but I admit I did them a little pinch to tighten them slightly. Pull your nipple through the opening, pushing the charm firmly back against your skin until you feel like it wont go any further but not too much that it is digging right in. It should just grip the skin enough to hold it in place.
Hope that helps but if not maybe let me know in more detail which bit is causing problems.
Hope you have fun with them, I LOVE mine, both the way they look and feel and the reaction I get from Him when I wear them.
Thank you Molly! I had to play around with them for a little while but with the help of snake bite suckers that help make my nipples longer I was able to get them on! I am to chicken to get my nipples pierced but it is fun to decorate them. I am surprised they stay on so well! Thanks again for your help and a thank you to Signs too.
Molly- saw your comment on Savage love, and just wanted to present a counterpoint.
I’m a 33 year old man. In my pre-dating youth I felt no guilt or concern with expressing my frustration and anger physically in VICTEMLESS situations. It can be cathartic and satisfying. I’ve never broken anything that i valued or damaged anything etc., etc. because i CHOOSE when to lose control, just like in sex one might CHOOSE when to lose control. I didn’t scare people to my knowledge. Because i never directed my anger AT a person.
In my family i never saw ANYONE hit ANYONE else, but also no one ever tried to STIFLE someone expresing anger by raising your voice or stamping your foot or whatever.
Because i realized slamming my fist when venting about something would SCARE my girlfriend, i (with some discomfort) chose to suppress those urges when i had them. I think that is sad and unhealthy, but a compromise i’m willing to make, because society is so fucked up and women are abused with such regularity that I can’t assume that people will feel safe around anger. I do, because i trust myself, i trusted my parents growing up, my friends. If my loved ones feel the need to tantrum or vent, i want them to feel free and unencumbered to do that. That is a part of the intimacy i want to give them. I am not scared of them. I trust them and no they would not abuse me.
But I do resent the fact that there are folks out there who are so closed minded that they can only see the catharsis of throwing something as a harbinger of beating your wife.
I have never hit anyone, not even in grade school. I am articulate, I respect women, i respect PEOPLE, i respect the subtleties of power dynamics and acknowledge the fear that many women may be forced to carry around as a result of physical violence they have seen or experienced inflicted on women by men.
But I am not responsible personally for that, And I would like to be healthy and self actualized and only as socialized and emotionally repressed as is necessary. I think physical expressions of anger are a release, a communication. And it IS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT not to lump in someone who chooses to be in touch with/express their “inner brute” in safe circumstances from someone who is a ticking time bomb with anger issues. Anger, like joy, sadness, sexual arousal, disgust, fear is a part of our core emotional make up.
So, Thats my thought. Do you really think people should feel REQUIRED to control their anger ALL THE TIME? Are tantrums really only acceptable for children?
Thank you for getting in touch. My response to the lady over on Nerve.com was driven by the fact that the behaviour of her partner at best made her uncomfortable and at worst intimidated her, with that in mind I would suggest that his behaviour, in her eyes at least, is therefore inappropriate.
We all get angry, frustrated, cross etc but we have to learn ways in which it is acceptable to display those emotions without being intimidating or threatening to others. It is fine to be angry, it’s how we display that anger that is the issue, being offensive, or threatening is not acceptable, learning to communcate your anger verbally but in a control manner is.
As a mother of a young boy I have gone to great lengths to teach him how to control and manage his anger, telling him that it is fine to be angry but that when you feel like that anger is becoming bigger than you then you need to remove yourself from other people and have some alone time. I have shown him that it is fine to go to his room and beat his pillow, but it is not fine to slam all the doors on his way there whilst shouting at everyone in the house. He is a big boy, strong and nearly as tall as me, it is my responsiblity to teach him that no matter how angry he is, it should be using it to make others uncomfortable.
I agree with you that anger is a valid emotion just as lust, desire, happyness, sadness etc are as well but just like all these other emotions there are appropriate ways and times in which to display them, as adult we should be able to guage these things. If you were feeling horny at the train station would you get out your dick and start jerking off? No, because it would not be appropriate…..in my opinion the same kind of boundries should apply when dealing with ones anger.
The gentleman in question was obvious very physical and verbal when angry, his partner was obviously uncomfortable with it and in my opnion you don’t have to actually physically strike someone to be harming them, verbal rage can be just as threatening and damaging to people exposed to it as physically hitting them. For a child that kind of temper or display of anger would be very frightening and damaging and for a child such as my son would teach him that showing your anger in an uncontrolled manner is OK.
Personally I don’t think it is required for us to control our anger at all times but it is required for us to control our responses to that emotion and make sure they are appropriate for the surroundings and the other people who are nearby, personally I do believe that tantrums are only acceptable for children, they show a lack of maturity and achieve nothing. Children who have tantrums in this house get ignored and sent to their room, because their behaviour is inappropriate and unacceptable to the situation, but they are children and they are learning, I hope that they will grow out of it and find better more productive ways to deal with anger and to obtain the things they want.
In addition I would like to add that as a woman living in a 24/7 D/s relationship I would say that the for me it is vital that my partner is always able to control his anger, otherwise I could not ever submit to him knowing that there was a risk that he could lose his temper and use his physical strength to harm me. A man who is not in control of his temper in a D/s situation can never be a good Dom and can never be trusted not to harm.
In all likelihood the dude in the column DOES have a lack of control problem going on, and your points are all well taken. And certainly in the context of D/s situation, the whole point is a D is someone with control, and that control starts with themselves. Me? I’m happy to act like a grownup 85% of the time with occasional vacations in the land of the whiny, pushy, goofy, needy, selfish, tantrum-y, niave, or whatever toddler-like emotion that still sits there in my amygdala. I think maintaining a good connection/not severing that connection is a choice artists make over and over again in service of creativity/good relationship between conscious-unconscious ego-id.. Of, course, admittedly, a artists are frequently an infantile lot, and abusive partners as well. Whatever. thanks for the chat! What an intense/personal blog you’ve got going on here. hot!
I wonder if that is why so many artists suffer from depression and loneliness issue? Their social skills and abilities to act within social settings ultimately effecting their personal relationships.
Thank you again for getting in touch and for the compliment on my blog, I hope you come back again and feel free to ask anything you like.
hi Molly
I was hoping you could suggest some good reading for me as I grow on my submissive journey. I have read The Story of O and The Sleeping Beauty Trilogy. I have also read everything I could find at A Submissive Journey website. I suggested to Master that I ask you for your suggestions and he thought you would be a great resource. Thank you for your help.
I am currently reading The Collected Adventures By Sapio Slut. You can find a link to her blog in my blog role. Many moons ago now, when I first started exploring, I read a book called, The Loving Dominant by John Warren. Although written with the novice Dom in mind, I found it really fasinating reading, made me realise the type of Dom I wanted in my life, and also, made me accept myself as a sub…..there were times and descriptions when it felt so like me.
If I can think of anything I will let you know……of course I read a lot of blogs on this subject matter, I mentioned Sapio Sluts, but also check out this weeks kiss winner….and I watch out for more to come.
Hey Molly, I’ve just subscribed to your blog, at long last! Why so late? Well you know your blog is pretty much NSFO with so many naughty photos. :p But it’s not a problem anymore now that I’ve decided to quit my boring office job! God bless me! xoxo
Hey Molly
I’ve just recently discovered your blog, as you know and I think it is amazing.
Last night and I wrote a blog called “Am I really a Slut!? And I’m worried I said too much. I haven’t been blogging very long, but I recently felt a need a to express myself. I wondered if you would be so kind to let me know what you think of it. I just written a quick post this morning as I’m worried.
Maybe I just had to get it out of system and will return to dirty posts, maybe I’ll delete it I don’t know.
You sound as if you are hurting, You know you don’t have to take the abuse, for thats what it is abuse…Have you ever made love to a woman? That is the tenderess love you will ever know, I would love to make love to you and show you and take you to places you never imagined, I can and would keep giving you multiple orgasms I can keep you on the edge for as long as you can take the intensity of it, then I would drink your love juices while still mking come more and more…I would love to hear from you and if possible arrange a meeting where ever you are…I have lots of free time so no distance is an object to me be it Australia, Japan, USA, Russia, I would be there if you say the word…..I shall look forward to hearing from you…Kind affections… Carolyne XXX
Thank you very much for visiting my blog and taking the time to leave me a comment.
My relationship with Sir in no way, shape or form abusive. He is loving, kind, nuturing and caring and I could not ask for a better man in my life. The D/s element of our life is very important to me, it is by mutual consent and done within the loving boundaries of our relationship.
I have made love to a woman on a number of occassions but at the moment Sir is the focus of my life and I am not looking to change that. Thank you for the offer to meet up but as I said, my relationship with Sir is my priority.
Thanks again for your interest and please feel free to ask anything else you wish
Also, I am working on making audio readings / recordings of erotic writing pieces for various authors (my reading voice is far superior to my writing voice – for now..) if you would like to connect me with any author interested in that, its an interesting and different way to present some of the hot writing of our friends.
Best!
Thats a great idea for the audio recordings. Why don’t you record one of your pieces on JK and send us the recording and we will publish it on your story. If that works out well maybe we can get you to do some others, the few audio stories we have are very popular.
This is a little bit of a tricky one to answer as you have not said if there is a certian area of BDSM that you most identify with. I think the beginning place should be trying to discover if you are Dom, sub or maybe a switch? Also, are you looking for real explorations or maybe just online? I think those are the first 2 areas that you need to think about. I would be more than happy to provide more information once you have a slightly better idea of where you think you lay within the kink community.
Molly all your photographs are so erotic.You have one of the most prominate and sexy mons I have ever seen,and I would love to taste it.Do you have any videos for viewing ?
Thank you very much for leaving this comment. I was not aware that this feature did not still work but you are right, it seems that it doesn’t. I need to investigate further and work out why that is and hopefully restore it so that you can enjoy my pictures in all their enlarge glory!
Hey, I’m a bucks based cute toyboy, useable for anything related to total female sexual pleasure. Please let me know if i can get i touch so i can taste your pussy cum in my mouth. I want to please. xxx
At the weekend I found out the delights of camping out in the great outdoors in a 4 ‘ man’ tent……actually 1 dom and 1 sub(ish). Have you had any ‘outdoor’ experiences you can share with the readers? Love Voyeur10……btw….loving the non panties thing……xxx
I have one post on here that took place outdoors http://mollysdailykiss.com/2011/07/27/innocent-comments/ and of course all the scavenger hunt pictures that you can find my selecting the Scavenger Hunt category in the side bar….. I am not a camping type girl, I like my proper bed but I am pretty certain that there will be more outdoor adventures in my future.
As for the panties…. it is very important to let the kitty breathe you know
Pearls. Just found your exquisite photos. Charm plus seduction. Elegance plus raw lust. I kiss my way down your belly, my tongue licking along the way. Feel. Smell. Taste. Pussy. Delightful. Sighs….
Hi Molly,
I love your photos, in particular the “sufing the internet the submissive way”. I am curious, do you practice that often ? I do it as well from time to time, and realy like it. Do you have some other idea on surfing the submissive way ?
Congratulations, nice website, I will visit it often …
Hi Molly. So i see that your in a relationship where your the submissive. I have been a submissive for girlfreinds in the past,but only in a light manner. Being tiedup to a bed,then used for everything sexually a former girlfreind wanted. She started with a feather duster and then there was more,if you know what i mean? Then another stripped me of my clothes and then handcuffed me to her bed. She oral fucked me first,before smothering me,and made me suck her breasts. These experiences i really liked and turned me on immensely. Now though id like a woman,women who have”Dom”experience to show me the whole repitraa of dominating and humiliation. I dont know where i could go to find such a woman?apart from obvious methods! No,what im seeking is somebody and somewhere where its clean and safe to perform such things. Not sure if you could help on this? But whatever,if anything you may suggest,be aware im very discreet,and both those two descriptions i wrote above. e.g safe and clean. Many thanks Louis
My advice would be to make a profile on Fetlife.com and search for events, clubs and people in your local area. I think this would be a great place for to start your search for what you are looking for.
Hello Miss Molly. Just confirmed my subscription. Im not sure what you could offer me,as your a female submissive,and i want to be a male sub for a strong big breasted woman. I really would like the idea of being a sex slave to this kinda woman. Anyway..i hope you can accomadate me and my fantasy in someway? I think your site is great and glad to be on board. Yours Louis
Hey Molly
I was wondering how you made your site not “copiable”. I was going to quote your sentences in a comment to you and I was unable to copy it… I want to do that to my site too!
p.s I love your “50 Shades of Me” post! Simply amazing!!
Hi Molly,
I have just started blogging with my husband (like literally 3 days ago) and I really haven’t read many blogs before now either. It has been so exciting and a bit overwhelming, and more than anything there are so many sexual “realms” out there (for lack of a better word) that I am stumbling upon that are just blowing my mind. For instance, the world of BDSM is particularly intriguing to me and as I am reading and learning about it daily I am very turned on and fascinated. What little I knew about it I think I always thought of as merely a fantasy or a life on another planet, so to speak. I guess what I’m trying to say, my somewhat vague question to you, is how do you balance your relationship with what appears to me to be a very “normal” (forgive the expression – I am butchering this) life? I am so fascinated by the thought of you as daily sub as I try to reconcile that role with you as successful writer, presenter, etc. Forgive me as I know almost nothing about you, but it seems you are professional and successful and also a sexy sub and for some reason I can’t make those things all fit together in my naive head! I would find a post on this “life balance” very interesting and helpful, if you are ever so inclined. And it occurs to me you might have written one already that I simply have not had the pleasure of discovering yet. Thanks for any answers, and I look forward to learning more about you and your Sir.
I hope you are well and that you don’t mind me coming to you for advice. I did once before and I am am very grateful for the advice you gave. This time it is a little different and I shall get straight to the point….
My partner and I are looking for a girl/woman to join us for some fun and I wondered if you could shed any light on how we could go about this. We’ve thought about joining some online site, I also wondered about going to a club but gosh I just wouldn’t know what to expect. I done the only thing I know and set up a blog again.
Would love any advice you have.
Much love
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Welcome back to the blogging world! I will attempt to answer your questions but as I don’t know where you are in the world I shall be general about it.
Firstly you need to remember that what you are looking for is often referred to as ‘unicorn’ why? Because they are a beautiful mythical creature and about as rare as one. Having said that finding someone is possible but the key is to treating them not like a sex toy within your relationship but finding a place for them that works for all 3 of you within. I guess the things you need to think about is are you looking to purely have a sexual relationship with this person or something more poly based? Also is this a BDSM related play or not?
If you are looking for a sexual relationship only then I would advise that you start by looking on some of the swinging sites. SDC Swingers is one of the bigs one but there are lots around. Again, there are some UK based ones but depends where you are. If this is BDSM related you could also make a profile on Fetlife but really the key to success is getting out and meeting people. Go to some local events such as a Munch or try a swingers club. All the ones I have been to have been fun and people have been welcoming and friendly and are quite happy for you to just come along and hang out and see what happens with no pressure to actually join in but again, do some research on your local area.
It made me laugh when you said about the Unicorn because you are so right however I am happy to keep looking for that perfect relationship. I will check out those events you mentioned as I am looking to get to know someone before I embark on this exciting adventure.
Back In High Heels
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Not a question. I just wanted to thank you for your common-sense questions and replies to that group misquoting E.L.James about abuse survivors on twitter. They don’t speak for all of us, even if they think that they do.
You are welcome. I was concerned by their apparent quoting of E L James and yet when asked to provide evidence to support this they basically have NONE. You can’t go around misquoting someone like that, well not unless you want to end up in a court of law that is!
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Thanks for your comments, Molly. Nice site. Can I add you to my blogroll?
Melody xx
I don’t know how I missed this question, yes please do if it’s not to late
Mollyxxx
sorry i want u to so we can talk i want u and u can have me your lover hope to be all my love joanne xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Are those your pretty little toes in the pic ??
Yes they are……
i do hope your so wet and so turnd on as u look at my profile im going to do the same love j.s
‘Mazin’ Molly-
Newbie, AOL sux. yur posts rock. how do i apply to lambchop crew? invite only, sounds like a Molly fav.
-hotleather23@aol.com
I will pass your message onto Lampchop and she will send an invite is she wishes
Mollyxxx
i do hope she is ok and she is geting wet like i am now j.s xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
*I give off a super creepy vibe sometime’s usually when i see a female that I’m attracted to… I think it’s stress vibe’s… Have you ever had them befor or do they creep you out too…
Hi there
Thank you for the question, maybe you need to invest in a better vibe!
Mollyxxx
Hi,
I follow you on twitter. Do you also have a profile at fetlife?
Have a nice day!
Sir Hari
Hi Sir hari
I do and my name is Pussy but I rarely go there……you are far more likely to find me at just-kinky.com.
Mollyxxx
You look like a subbie that needs a lot of control. However does your master manage it at a distance?
I guess you could be right…LOL. without His dominance and guidance I would be out of control.
The distance can be a challange to both of us, but more in the respect of our physical time together and also time to do things out and about that we want to do. As far as Him managing our D/s relationship I don’t think it makes it that much harder as I am His willing sub and therefore I respond to what he asks and wants of me. Without my consent and commitment to our D/s relationship that would not be possible but then I think that is true for all LDR’s whether D/s or not. Both parties have to be committed to making it work.
I know there have been occassions when I have pushed Him harder than I probably would have if he was in the room with me, but those are willful and foolish moments of mine that I have always end up paying dearly for.
I admit though, that I am greatly looking forward to distance no longer being an issue for us.
Mollyxxx
hi Molly
I loved the nipple jewelry Signs gave you for Valentine’s Day. I loved it so much I ordered some for myself! I am having a hard time getting them on and was wondering if there was a trick to it. I appreciate any help you could give me. Thank you and thank you for the wonderful blog. I love reading the Signs and Molly fairytale. I just know your happily ever after is coming!
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Hi Sweet P
Thank you for the comment and lovely to hear from you.
I found them very easy to get on and they stay on well as long as I pull my nipples firmly through. I know the instructions said to NOT squeeze them but I admit I did them a little pinch to tighten them slightly. Pull your nipple through the opening, pushing the charm firmly back against your skin until you feel like it wont go any further but not too much that it is digging right in. It should just grip the skin enough to hold it in place.
Hope that helps but if not maybe let me know in more detail which bit is causing problems.
Hope you have fun with them, I LOVE mine, both the way they look and feel and the reaction I get from Him when I wear them.
Mollyxxx
Thank you Molly! I had to play around with them for a little while but with the help of snake bite suckers that help make my nipples longer I was able to get them on! I am to chicken to get my nipples pierced but it is fun to decorate them. I am surprised they stay on so well! Thanks again for your help and a thank you to Signs too.
Molly- saw your comment on Savage love, and just wanted to present a counterpoint.
I’m a 33 year old man. In my pre-dating youth I felt no guilt or concern with expressing my frustration and anger physically in VICTEMLESS situations. It can be cathartic and satisfying. I’ve never broken anything that i valued or damaged anything etc., etc. because i CHOOSE when to lose control, just like in sex one might CHOOSE when to lose control. I didn’t scare people to my knowledge. Because i never directed my anger AT a person.
In my family i never saw ANYONE hit ANYONE else, but also no one ever tried to STIFLE someone expresing anger by raising your voice or stamping your foot or whatever.
Because i realized slamming my fist when venting about something would SCARE my girlfriend, i (with some discomfort) chose to suppress those urges when i had them. I think that is sad and unhealthy, but a compromise i’m willing to make, because society is so fucked up and women are abused with such regularity that I can’t assume that people will feel safe around anger. I do, because i trust myself, i trusted my parents growing up, my friends. If my loved ones feel the need to tantrum or vent, i want them to feel free and unencumbered to do that. That is a part of the intimacy i want to give them. I am not scared of them. I trust them and no they would not abuse me.
But I do resent the fact that there are folks out there who are so closed minded that they can only see the catharsis of throwing something as a harbinger of beating your wife.
I have never hit anyone, not even in grade school. I am articulate, I respect women, i respect PEOPLE, i respect the subtleties of power dynamics and acknowledge the fear that many women may be forced to carry around as a result of physical violence they have seen or experienced inflicted on women by men.
But I am not responsible personally for that, And I would like to be healthy and self actualized and only as socialized and emotionally repressed as is necessary. I think physical expressions of anger are a release, a communication. And it IS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT not to lump in someone who chooses to be in touch with/express their “inner brute” in safe circumstances from someone who is a ticking time bomb with anger issues. Anger, like joy, sadness, sexual arousal, disgust, fear is a part of our core emotional make up.
So, Thats my thought. Do you really think people should feel REQUIRED to control their anger ALL THE TIME? Are tantrums really only acceptable for children?
Hi Greg
Thank you for getting in touch. My response to the lady over on Nerve.com was driven by the fact that the behaviour of her partner at best made her uncomfortable and at worst intimidated her, with that in mind I would suggest that his behaviour, in her eyes at least, is therefore inappropriate.
We all get angry, frustrated, cross etc but we have to learn ways in which it is acceptable to display those emotions without being intimidating or threatening to others. It is fine to be angry, it’s how we display that anger that is the issue, being offensive, or threatening is not acceptable, learning to communcate your anger verbally but in a control manner is.
As a mother of a young boy I have gone to great lengths to teach him how to control and manage his anger, telling him that it is fine to be angry but that when you feel like that anger is becoming bigger than you then you need to remove yourself from other people and have some alone time. I have shown him that it is fine to go to his room and beat his pillow, but it is not fine to slam all the doors on his way there whilst shouting at everyone in the house. He is a big boy, strong and nearly as tall as me, it is my responsiblity to teach him that no matter how angry he is, it should be using it to make others uncomfortable.
I agree with you that anger is a valid emotion just as lust, desire, happyness, sadness etc are as well but just like all these other emotions there are appropriate ways and times in which to display them, as adult we should be able to guage these things. If you were feeling horny at the train station would you get out your dick and start jerking off? No, because it would not be appropriate…..in my opinion the same kind of boundries should apply when dealing with ones anger.
The gentleman in question was obvious very physical and verbal when angry, his partner was obviously uncomfortable with it and in my opnion you don’t have to actually physically strike someone to be harming them, verbal rage can be just as threatening and damaging to people exposed to it as physically hitting them. For a child that kind of temper or display of anger would be very frightening and damaging and for a child such as my son would teach him that showing your anger in an uncontrolled manner is OK.
Personally I don’t think it is required for us to control our anger at all times but it is required for us to control our responses to that emotion and make sure they are appropriate for the surroundings and the other people who are nearby, personally I do believe that tantrums are only acceptable for children, they show a lack of maturity and achieve nothing. Children who have tantrums in this house get ignored and sent to their room, because their behaviour is inappropriate and unacceptable to the situation, but they are children and they are learning, I hope that they will grow out of it and find better more productive ways to deal with anger and to obtain the things they want.
In addition I would like to add that as a woman living in a 24/7 D/s relationship I would say that the for me it is vital that my partner is always able to control his anger, otherwise I could not ever submit to him knowing that there was a risk that he could lose his temper and use his physical strength to harm me. A man who is not in control of his temper in a D/s situation can never be a good Dom and can never be trusted not to harm.
Mollyxxx
In all likelihood the dude in the column DOES have a lack of control problem going on, and your points are all well taken. And certainly in the context of D/s situation, the whole point is a D is someone with control, and that control starts with themselves. Me? I’m happy to act like a grownup 85% of the time with occasional vacations in the land of the whiny, pushy, goofy, needy, selfish, tantrum-y, niave, or whatever toddler-like emotion that still sits there in my amygdala. I think maintaining a good connection/not severing that connection is a choice artists make over and over again in service of creativity/good relationship between conscious-unconscious ego-id.. Of, course, admittedly, a artists are frequently an infantile lot, and abusive partners as well. Whatever. thanks for the chat! What an intense/personal blog you’ve got going on here. hot!
Hi Greg
I wonder if that is why so many artists suffer from depression and loneliness issue? Their social skills and abilities to act within social settings ultimately effecting their personal relationships.
Thank you again for getting in touch and for the compliment on my blog, I hope you come back again and feel free to ask anything you like.
Mollyxxx
hi Molly
I was hoping you could suggest some good reading for me as I grow on my submissive journey. I have read The Story of O and The Sleeping Beauty Trilogy. I have also read everything I could find at A Submissive Journey website. I suggested to Master that I ask you for your suggestions and he thought you would be a great resource. Thank you for your help.
I am currently reading The Collected Adventures By Sapio Slut. You can find a link to her blog in my blog role. Many moons ago now, when I first started exploring, I read a book called, The Loving Dominant by John Warren. Although written with the novice Dom in mind, I found it really fasinating reading, made me realise the type of Dom I wanted in my life, and also, made me accept myself as a sub…..there were times and descriptions when it felt so like me.
If I can think of anything I will let you know……of course I read a lot of blogs on this subject matter, I mentioned Sapio Sluts, but also check out this weeks kiss winner….and I watch out for more to come.
Mollyxxx
Hey Molly, I’ve just subscribed to your blog, at long last! Why so late? Well you know your blog is pretty much NSFO with so many naughty photos. :p But it’s not a problem anymore now that I’ve decided to quit my boring office job! God bless me! xoxo
Thank you for subscribing……I hope the job thing works out OK.
Mollyxxx
Hey Molly
I’ve just recently discovered your blog, as you know and I think it is amazing.
Last night and I wrote a blog called “Am I really a Slut!? And I’m worried I said too much. I haven’t been blogging very long, but I recently felt a need a to express myself. I wondered if you would be so kind to let me know what you think of it. I just written a quick post this morning as I’m worried.
Maybe I just had to get it out of system and will return to dirty posts, maybe I’ll delete it I don’t know.
You sound as if you are hurting, You know you don’t have to take the abuse, for thats what it is abuse…Have you ever made love to a woman? That is the tenderess love you will ever know, I would love to make love to you and show you and take you to places you never imagined, I can and would keep giving you multiple orgasms I can keep you on the edge for as long as you can take the intensity of it, then I would drink your love juices while still mking come more and more…I would love to hear from you and if possible arrange a meeting where ever you are…I have lots of free time so no distance is an object to me be it Australia, Japan, USA, Russia, I would be there if you say the word…..I shall look forward to hearing from you…Kind affections… Carolyne XXX
Dear Carolyne
Thank you very much for visiting my blog and taking the time to leave me a comment.
My relationship with Sir in no way, shape or form abusive. He is loving, kind, nuturing and caring and I could not ask for a better man in my life. The D/s element of our life is very important to me, it is by mutual consent and done within the loving boundaries of our relationship.
I have made love to a woman on a number of occassions but at the moment Sir is the focus of my life and I am not looking to change that. Thank you for the offer to meet up but as I said, my relationship with Sir is my priority.
Thanks again for your interest and please feel free to ask anything else you wish
Mollyxxx
Hi Molly,
Apropos of your shoe shopping post, I ran across this pic for you -
https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/-6HpQU8pzhHM/ThyFW1Q9C_I/AAAAAAAAA-Q/5wWzp9NuryM/s128/shoes4.jpg
Also, I am working on making audio readings / recordings of erotic writing pieces for various authors (my reading voice is far superior to my writing voice – for now..) if you would like to connect me with any author interested in that, its an interesting and different way to present some of the hot writing of our friends.
Best!
Hi Sunlover….
Thank you for the link. I LOVE those shoes……
Thats a great idea for the audio recordings. Why don’t you record one of your pieces on JK and send us the recording and we will publish it on your story. If that works out well maybe we can get you to do some others, the few audio stories we have are very popular.
Mollyxxx
hi molly, i am interested in bdsm but don’t know where to start. any suggestions..danny
Hi Danny,
This is a little bit of a tricky one to answer as you have not said if there is a certian area of BDSM that you most identify with. I think the beginning place should be trying to discover if you are Dom, sub or maybe a switch? Also, are you looking for real explorations or maybe just online? I think those are the first 2 areas that you need to think about. I would be more than happy to provide more information once you have a slightly better idea of where you think you lay within the kink community.
Mollyxxx
Molly all your photographs are so erotic.You have one of the most prominate and sexy mons I have ever seen,and I would love to taste it.Do you have any videos for viewing ?
XOXOXO,
Lori
It’s a shame you can no longer click on your pictures and get a larger version. I quite enjoyed those. Perhaps you’ll reconsider doing this?
Thank you very much for leaving this comment. I was not aware that this feature did not still work but you are right, it seems that it doesn’t. I need to investigate further and work out why that is and hopefully restore it so that you can enjoy my pictures in all their enlarge glory!
Mollyxxx
Hey, I’m a bucks based cute toyboy, useable for anything related to total female sexual pleasure. Please let me know if i can get i touch so i can taste your pussy cum in my mouth. I want to please. xxx
Hi Max
Thanks for your kind offer but I am not looking for anyone else in our bed right now.
Mollyxxx
At the weekend I found out the delights of camping out in the great outdoors in a 4 ‘ man’ tent……actually 1 dom and 1 sub(ish). Have you had any ‘outdoor’ experiences you can share with the readers? Love Voyeur10……btw….loving the non panties thing……xxx
Hi Voyeur…..
Do I know you
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I have one post on here that took place outdoors http://mollysdailykiss.com/2011/07/27/innocent-comments/ and of course all the scavenger hunt pictures that you can find my selecting the Scavenger Hunt category in the side bar….. I am not a camping type girl, I like my proper bed but I am pretty certain that there will be more outdoor adventures in my future.
As for the panties…. it is very important to let the kitty breathe you know
Mollyxxx
Hi Molly! I enjoy the honest and eroticism of your blog.
Now, about the playing around with images of famous pictures … I can hardly wait to see your version of Origine du Monde!
Pass on the idea; others might like to play as well.
Cheers.
Ben
Pearls. Just found your exquisite photos. Charm plus seduction. Elegance plus raw lust. I kiss my way down your belly, my tongue licking along the way. Feel. Smell. Taste. Pussy. Delightful. Sighs….
Thank you very much for this lovely comment. It is lovely to hear what reactions my photographs elicit in people.
Mollyxxx
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Hi Molly,
I love your photos, in particular the “sufing the internet the submissive way”. I am curious, do you practice that often ? I do it as well from time to time, and realy like it. Do you have some other idea on surfing the submissive way ?
Congratulations, nice website, I will visit it often …
Hi Molly. So i see that your in a relationship where your the submissive. I have been a submissive for girlfreinds in the past,but only in a light manner. Being tiedup to a bed,then used for everything sexually a former girlfreind wanted. She started with a feather duster and then there was more,if you know what i mean? Then another stripped me of my clothes and then handcuffed me to her bed. She oral fucked me first,before smothering me,and made me suck her breasts. These experiences i really liked and turned me on immensely. Now though id like a woman,women who have”Dom”experience to show me the whole repitraa of dominating and humiliation. I dont know where i could go to find such a woman?apart from obvious methods! No,what im seeking is somebody and somewhere where its clean and safe to perform such things. Not sure if you could help on this? But whatever,if anything you may suggest,be aware im very discreet,and both those two descriptions i wrote above. e.g safe and clean. Many thanks Louis
My advice would be to make a profile on Fetlife.com and search for events, clubs and people in your local area. I think this would be a great place for to start your search for what you are looking for.
Mollyxxx
Hello Miss Molly. Just confirmed my subscription. Im not sure what you could offer me,as your a female submissive,and i want to be a male sub for a strong big breasted woman. I really would like the idea of being a sex slave to this kinda woman. Anyway..i hope you can accomadate me and my fantasy in someway? I think your site is great and glad to be on board. Yours Louis
I will do my best… hopefully you will enjoy reading my exploits as a submissive.
Mollyxxx
Hey Molly
I was wondering how you made your site not “copiable”. I was going to quote your sentences in a comment to you and I was unable to copy it… I want to do that to my site too!
p.s I love your “50 Shades of Me” post! Simply amazing!!
-Goldi
xox
Hi Molly
Thanks for popping by my blog earlier today *honoured* – great comment too. I’ve added you to my blog roll – hope that’s ok
<3
Brenda
x
That is wonderful thank you
Mollyxxx
Hi Molly,
I have just started blogging with my husband (like literally 3 days ago) and I really haven’t read many blogs before now either. It has been so exciting and a bit overwhelming, and more than anything there are so many sexual “realms” out there (for lack of a better word) that I am stumbling upon that are just blowing my mind. For instance, the world of BDSM is particularly intriguing to me and as I am reading and learning about it daily I am very turned on and fascinated. What little I knew about it I think I always thought of as merely a fantasy or a life on another planet, so to speak. I guess what I’m trying to say, my somewhat vague question to you, is how do you balance your relationship with what appears to me to be a very “normal” (forgive the expression – I am butchering this) life? I am so fascinated by the thought of you as daily sub as I try to reconcile that role with you as successful writer, presenter, etc. Forgive me as I know almost nothing about you, but it seems you are professional and successful and also a sexy sub and for some reason I can’t make those things all fit together in my naive head! I would find a post on this “life balance” very interesting and helpful, if you are ever so inclined. And it occurs to me you might have written one already that I simply have not had the pleasure of discovering yet. Thanks for any answers, and I look forward to learning more about you and your Sir.
Hi Molly
I hope you are well and that you don’t mind me coming to you for advice. I did once before and I am am very grateful for the advice you gave. This time it is a little different and I shall get straight to the point….
My partner and I are looking for a girl/woman to join us for some fun and I wondered if you could shed any light on how we could go about this. We’ve thought about joining some online site, I also wondered about going to a club but gosh I just wouldn’t know what to expect. I done the only thing I know and set up a blog again.
Would love any advice you have.
Much love
Back in High Heels
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Welcome back to the blogging world! I will attempt to answer your questions but as I don’t know where you are in the world I shall be general about it.
Firstly you need to remember that what you are looking for is often referred to as ‘unicorn’ why? Because they are a beautiful mythical creature and about as rare as one. Having said that finding someone is possible but the key is to treating them not like a sex toy within your relationship but finding a place for them that works for all 3 of you within. I guess the things you need to think about is are you looking to purely have a sexual relationship with this person or something more poly based? Also is this a BDSM related play or not?
If you are looking for a sexual relationship only then I would advise that you start by looking on some of the swinging sites. SDC Swingers is one of the bigs one but there are lots around. Again, there are some UK based ones but depends where you are. If this is BDSM related you could also make a profile on Fetlife but really the key to success is getting out and meeting people. Go to some local events such as a Munch or try a swingers club. All the ones I have been to have been fun and people have been welcoming and friendly and are quite happy for you to just come along and hang out and see what happens with no pressure to actually join in but again, do some research on your local area.
Mollyxxx
Molly you ARE a STAR!!
Thank you so much for your very quick reply.
It made me laugh when you said about the Unicorn because you are so right however I am happy to keep looking for that perfect relationship. I will check out those events you mentioned as I am looking to get to know someone before I embark on this exciting adventure.
Back In High Heels
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Not a question. I just wanted to thank you for your common-sense questions and replies to that group misquoting E.L.James about abuse survivors on twitter. They don’t speak for all of us, even if they think that they do.
You are welcome. I was concerned by their apparent quoting of E L James and yet when asked to provide evidence to support this they basically have NONE. You can’t go around misquoting someone like that, well not unless you want to end up in a court of law that is!
Mollyxxx