It is dusk. We are sitting outside in the garden enjoying the last of the evening warmth. I have a glass of white wine, chilled and crisp and he talking. His face and hands are animated as he communicates his thoughts and knowledge to me and in turn I am engaged and focused, absorbing the subject like a sponge. He is the teacher and I am the pupil. In these roles we are, like in so many areas of our life, perfectly matched.
He pauses, his hands settle on my bare feet that are resting in his lap and as he thinks he traces patterns absentmindedly over my feet and lower legs. I can’t remember the subject up for discussion on this occasion, it doesn’t really matter what it is, what matters is this moment and this dynamic and how it makes me feel. The way he expresses himself, the clarity of his thought processes and his depth and breadth of knowledge all engage and enthral me. I love being the pupil of his mind. Sometimes I find myself wishing I could dive into his brain and surf around in there, picking up knowledge and wisdom as I go, submerging myself in him completely.
Sex is a physical act but the brain is well-known to be the biggest and most powerful sex organ that we have. Every touch, taste, smell, sound and sight ends up there and in turn every reaction comes from there. The brain is the coordinator of those nerve ending and impulses that fire through our bodies in response to everything that happens to us. Why as a human race have we pursued knowledge so much? Because not only has it allowed us to develop into a superior species but surely because it also feels so damn good.
I think one of the common misconceptions about submissives, I know I have certainly encountered it, is that somehow being submissive means we are passive and maybe not the brightest buttons in the box but in my opinion anyone who thinks that has never really taken the time to get to know or understand those that identify as such because I have found they tend to be highly intelligent and inquisitive people, active and passionate learners who like to know and understand. It is a combination that rarely makes for a dull or dim person. Likewise it takes an intelligent person to be truly kinky. All those wonderfully dark and deviant plans only come about if you have imagination and also the willingness to learn, not just about each other but about the implementation of it.
In case you have not figured it out already, intelligence is sexy. I first met Sir on-line. I had no idea who he really was, or what he looked like. All we had was words, the exchange of thoughts, beliefs, desires and ideas that right from the outset had us hooked on one another. In time we discovered many other things about each other that we loved and desired but all of it came about as a result of that first meeting and exploration of minds. I have come to realise that if you feed my mind then my body will follow.
I think it has something to do with concentration and focus as well. When I see him thinking, working on a problem, or just talking about something he has this look about him; A focus and concentration and I know that his brain and all that it is capable off is also applied to me. When he flogs me or whips me, when he touches me, when he makes me cum all that brainpower, that same concentration and focus is on me and on making me work for the pleasure of both of us. If that is not an aphrodisiac then I don’t know what is. In those moments I am the centre of everything, all that delicious brain power is being put to use on me.
By now the night is here, the last of daylight is gone and we are still in the garden, still talking. I am engaged but I will admit that now and then my mind has strayed from the topic of discussion to more primal thoughts. His hands on my hips, his teeth on my neck, his mind full of me and I shift in my seat and rub my foot up against the crotch of his trousers.
Where did you mind go? he laughingly asks
“Deep into yours” I reply
Ps… Click on the icons below to see who else is joining in with Wicked Wednesday and Kink of the Week and this is my contribution to the topic; Sapiosexuality