I know I have really let the side down on the 30 Days Of Kink writing project but I am determined to come back to this list now with a renewed energy and finally complete it. I have in mind the development of a new writing project here on my blog that people can share in, but before I start on that one I think it is only right and proper to finish this one first. I know I should probably tackle these prompt in order but that just wouldn’t be my style so today I am starting with…
Do you have a BDSM title (e.g. mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, princess, goddess, ma’am, sir)? What is your opinion of the use of titles in general?
I think the use of titles in general is a very personal thing. I openly refer to my dom as Sir in both vanilla and kinky settings although I also use his first name as well. However the use of Sir is personal between us and doesn’t mean I would expect anyone else to refer to him as Sir and I know he would feel the same. I think expecting other people to use your title is hugely arrogant. Just because someone proclaims to be a dom and I am a sub does not mean that I should be expected to call him or her Sir or ma’am or whatever other title they may have awarded themselves. Likewise I would be horrified if anyone else referred to me as Slutmine. It is the name we use within the confines of our personal relationship. If this is starting to read a bit like a rant then I apologise but one of my pet hates is people within the BDSM community who think that just because someone is dom or sub that dictates how they are referred to. I am only sub to him, I am only a slut for him, and I am only ever Slutmine to him.
Call me names. Whisper them into my ear as you fuck me. Tell the world what a dirty little cock hungry bitch I am. With one hand holding me by my hair and the other holding the whip remind me of my place and what it is I need. Let me hear the words slut, whore, fucktoy, bitch, and cumslut as you take your pleasure in me. I am all those things for you but most of all I am Slutmine.
To him, for him and named by him; Slutmine.
I do love my name so very much. When I hear it whispered into my ear it is guaranteed to send a little shiver down my spine. The use of that name is a real trigger to make me feel very submissive towards him. It is not bandied about in everyday speaking and so when I hear it used or see it on my screen it will always serve to bring me up short and remind me of exactly who and what I am. It is the name that truly identifies me as his property. Only he ever says it and I am only ever Slutmine for him.
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Interesting topic! I actually just wrote a post about what “slut” means to me. My Master calls me either his little slut or its equivalent in his native language, and I call him Master. I completely agree that it would be strange to hear anyone else refer to him by that title, and I would likely have a fit if someone called me “slut” out of context, lol.
xoxo, Slut
Nice pics! Thanks for sharing about the name, it brings to mind a few debates I have had. Excellent read, as always!
Played an *ahem* adult board game recently, where one of the tasks was to call one of the female players a “slut” for the entire game. I had real difficulty with that…funny how language controls us.
Stranded
Molly, I agree with you a hundred percent. It’s much more intimate and personal to have such names chosen by each other for each other and to be called by each other instead of others outside of Our relationship dynamic.
Personally, I love the pictures of you with your name attached to them. Gives great clarity to who you are, the name Signs has chosen for you and how much you love being called it.
xxx Miss July xxx
The power of words is amazing, especially key terms that have meanings just between the two of you. My Sir and I are starting to develop a few of those as well 🙂
~Kazi xxx
Words are sex. In so many ways.
And you ‘own’ that name, Molly 🙂
Was ranting about just this thing the other night as I had had enough of being called slut just because I am a sub. I made the same point, if you don’t know me and you call me slut I will never be your slut.
Respect!
Dx
Whilst I don’t particularly have an opinion either way about the specific name Signs has given you, I do have to say that I love these shots. I love that you’re holding your own label and showing us yourself with such a submissive yet powerful label attached.
Something about you labelling yourself in these pictures is really calling to me, but I’m not sure what! Perhaps I find it more exposing, even though you’ve shown us physically more than this?
Whatever it is, I love it.
Great photos!
Yes, titles are….a touchy subject for many I think. Some honorifics get overused and their weight/meaning diminishes. Too many demand them or use them online entirely too much. But for a submissive I think that “pet” names add a lot to the party.
That last pic is sexy as heck.
Not in a D/S relationship, but I do have pet names for a couple different girls that only I use.
We love the word slut. We understand that it can be and has been misused to label or hurt people (especially women) but we are pleased that so many have appropriated it for sex-positive use. There are few things as empowering, and for that matter sexy, as a woman proudly taking sexual initiative.
Additionally, the pictures you share are beautiful as always. You honor us with your loveliness.
I understand how wonderful having a name that is only used for you can be. My Sir has a name for me in German that is *mine*, and it makes me all warm and happy and wanting to curl up at his feet, or be utterly wanton for him.
Thank you for sharing this piece of writing, as well as the pictures.
Good points and lovely pictures. Sir and little one are favorites here, and one thing I partly disagree on – I think if you form a friendship with a Dom outside your primary relationship, Sir is polite.
I love having another name. I love the way it becomes a term of affection and degradation.
Mia x
There are definitely, in general, too many assumptions made in the BDSM community. And this one is damn annoying!
Conversely, thank you for letting us into this personal piece of intimacy. When someone names you like this it is intensely personal, and for me, someone else using that term for me would make me very angry.
Not ranty – just necessary.
And in case YOU weren’t paying attention …
http://www.dykedecade.com/2012/02/sin-win-top-3.html
Love you, Sister in Slut.